Not long ago while in the midst of sometimes doing outside gigs not necessarily pertaining to the arts, I was left with a sick feeling of disgust. I had to stand up. The supervisor came in to introduce himself. The first thing he said shortly after a handshake and a few questions, was why the other employee and I(Yours truly was only there for a hour) had certain things in disarray. I said “they were like that when we came into contact with them.” He proceeded to tell me the rules; Listen! You will do EXACTLY as I say! And I must NEVER speak when he is speaking. Therefore, we had no voice or opinions. I think he already knew that I was not the type to sit back and take orders with no thought or opinion. That is like telling me not to breathe (I once tried it and I almost died). As the next hour escalated, he called me and the other ‘smile and grin with the orders employee’ into the backroom. To make a long story short, it came to a very heated conclusion with the ignorant supervisor. He said things that I felt were disrespectful and heartless to me. I told him a few choice words and how low and disrespectful he was, plus my credentials(which were far above him) and to never speak to me in that manner, etc. I left the building! A friend once said quote and unquote; the thing with you spiritual types is, you are so chilled and easy going that if you come under attack, you blow up with pent up rage and fury. I proceed to encourage the other ‘smile and take the crap employee’ to leave with me. He was too scared.
Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.__Robert Frost
Interesting motivational story and rhetoric from Drew Dudley at TED talks. You should listen this 9:56 segment.
Too many of us were told by our parents and society to play it safe and follow the rules. Obey the institution and if you fail, it is your fault. You better apologize even if you weren’t the perpetrator. Don’t paint the sky yellow because it is blue. We celebrate Dr King and true warriors but nobody wants to stand up! We teach the same thing to our own kids or next generation. Play it safe, don’t rock the boat! Be bullied! Go figure!
Drew Dudley at TED talks; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MQDlsGjv4Kw